Feeling lost in limbo? Here's how to find answers

I think at some point every one of us has brushed up against that strange, suspended feeling of being in limbo. Not knowing exactly where we’re going, not totally happy with where we are, and unsure how to get ourselves back on track. Even the word limbo feels right — like floating in a void with no clear direction, watching life happen around you but not quite feeling plugged into it.

If that’s where you are now, I promise — you’re not broken. You’re not behind. You’re not alone.

This “void space” is more common than we talk about, and honestly, it’s often the exact thing that nudges us back into alignment. A quiet internal reroute. A pause before the pivot.

When I first moved to New York for modelling, I was wide-eyed and idealistic. And even though a part of me knew it wasn’t the path I wanted long-term, I chased it because I thought it would make me happy. I had grown up idolising the beautiful faces in magazines. I assumed stepping into that world would unlock fulfillment.

Instead, the more I chased the next casting, the next job, the next hit of external validation, the more hollow I felt. I became disconnected from who I was. From what actually brought me joy. I remember sitting in cafés between castings thinking, How did I even end up here? And how do I get out of this feeling?

If you’re feeling lost, the first and most important step is acceptance. Meeting yourself right where you are without judgment. No one has all the answers — not even the people who look like they do. We’re all figuring this out as we go.

Once you’ve softened into some self-compassion, see if you can bring yourself into a moment of stillness. In that stillness, acknowledge something powerful: your emotions aren’t punishing you. They’re guiding you. They are little “check engine” lights illuminating what needs attention inside of you.

Okay — something needs tending to. Beautiful. Now we can work with it.

Instead of looping on thoughts like I feel so lost or I don’t know what to do, try gently shifting your inner language. Because when we get hyper-focused on the problem, we unintentionally blind ourselves to the possibilities sitting right beside it.

Try affirming: I have all the answers I need. I allow them to surface. Perhaps call a trusted friend and talk it out: sometimes someone who loves you can see things you can’t.

Another way to reconnect with your direction is by reconnecting with you.

Ask yourself:

• What have I always been naturally good at?

• What do people come to me for advice on?

• What could I do all day and actually feel fulfilled?

• Or if that feels too big: What is one small thing I could do today that would bring me joy?
  

These questions bring us back to what lights us up.

And when we begin adding even one tiny thing into each day that feels good, the internal fog starts to lift.

Maybe it’s leaving the house ten minutes earlier so you can actually sit and enjoy your coffee instead of rushing. Maybe it’s a walk, a journal entry, a playlist that shifts your energy. These little choices create momentum.

Because often, the real reason we feel lost is simple: our days have filled up with things that don’t actually make us happy. Maybe we pursued a path that once felt right but now doesn’t. Maybe the needs of others have replaced our own. Whatever the cause — the solution is the same: begin bringing joy back in, one small action at a time.

So if you’re in limbo, or you love someone who is, remember this: the answers truly are on their way to you. Be patient. Stay open. And above all, be kind to yourself. This phase will not last. It never does.

If you enjoyed this, my debut book You Are A Magnet goes much deeper into inner alignment, intuition, and reconnecting with the path meant for you.

With love,

Amber